Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Woman Crush Wednesday!

Description of a Worthy Woman 
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and portions to her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night. She stretches our her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household, for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: "Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all."  Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.  (Proverbs 31: 10-30)

Any woman who has logged even a few hours in church has heard these words and aspired to emulate them. Myself included. Had there been a #WCW in Bible times, everyone would have chosen her! 
Every. Single. Wednesday. 
I consider myself blessed beyond description that I have a woman in my family who would give the virtuous woman a run for her money! 
No, she's not my love interest. 
She's my daughter-in-law!! Wife to my son, and mother to my grandchildren.


It is apparent in reading Biblical accounts of people and occurrences, that our world has transformed since those days. (I know she gets up while it's still dark and feeds Jasper (& probably Oliver), but there's no way she'd be able to wake Kory up!)
Anyone who has the pleasure of knowing her will agree that she is probably the sweetest person they've ever met. She won't be content if she has not spent every ounce of her energy to tend to her loved ones. (And I'm pretty sure "her loved ones" are EVERY human she encounters.) Kory can't praise her enough. Her children adore her. I have witnessed the mastery with which she pours affection onto her sons, somehow having a plethora for the rest of us. I thank God every day for bringing this incredible woman into our lives! 
Years ago, I wrote a post that praised God for removing the obstacles that were preventing me from loving her as I should. They are still m.i.a. (never to return!) 
Our Lord is so faithful!

I don't tell her (to her face) how incredibly special she is near often enough. 
Mother-in-law fail.
Tomorrow is her birthday, so I wanted to honor her with a love-post! 





Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Canine Comfort on New Year's Eve

BOOM!

Oh! How lovely are the fireworks on new year's eve! The night sky suddenly becomes brilliantly illuminated. Every burst of light and color proclaiming that this year will be the best yet! The whole family looks forward to the luminous display, right? 

Wrong. 

 The furry family members are unlikely to be giddy with anticipation. In fact, once the celebration begins, they will often be found cowering in their favorite safe place (if they have one). Dogs have a keen sense of hearing. They hear sounds inaudible to the human ear. The seemingly harmless booms and bangs that accompany your fireworks show can be terrifying to your canine companion. 

My sweet rescue dog, Marcus Antonius, is a prime example. His history includes being displaced by the California fires and being moved miles away to a Western Washington shelter. He was then adopted by a woman who rejected him a few weeks later. Her daughter posted a desperate plea online, begging someone to save this poor, adorable cuddle bug so he wouldn't have to return to the shelter. I couldn't resist. 
Marcus Antonius


Although he appears to have adjusted to his new, forever home, he still requires a lot of reassurance. Some of his behaviors indicate that he experienced abuse in the past. It is heartbreaking to see him flinch when I reach to pet him.😢 I am determined to help him feel safe and confident that no human will hurt him ever again. 

Unfortunately, last night he was afraid. Terrified.  

This was the first occasion since he moved in that fireworks were being set off by the neighbors. I was not properly prepared. With the initial BANG, he scurried onto my lap, trembling. It felt like he was trying to crawl right inside my chest. He couldn't get close enough. I held him tight and told him it would be okay. I sang to him. (Yes, I sing to my animals.) I felt like a bad dog mom for my lack of readiness. I distracted him and his furry sister, Cleopatra, with yummy treats. The brief calmness converted itself right back into quivering anxiety with the next BOOM. 

This morning I looked to my favorite dog whisperer, Cesar Milan, for advice. I will be ready for the 4th of July! 
His article: Keep Your Dog Safe  details the steps to ensure your dog feels protected.  
Briefly paraphrased;
1) Preparation: If possible, keep them away from the anticipated loudness.
2) Accommodation: If taking them away from the noise is impossible, make them a "safe place" in your home. 
3) Acclimation: Play some firework sound in the weeks leading up to the occasion so they can get used to it.  
4) Sedation: If you find it necessary to use medications, or a thunder shirt to help calm your furry companion, educate yourself on how and when to implement this tool.   
5) Communication: Take your doggy for a long walk to expend much of their energy before the event. Let them know it is going to be okay. They can sense both anxiety and serenity in you. If you're calm, they will follow you, their pack leader. 

As much as I love my shaggy snuggles, I prefer the context to be spontaneous and relaxed! From now on, this dog mom will equip her fur babies for a laid back, boomin' time!! 
Marcus Antonius and Cleopatra


Monday, December 31, 2018

A Year in Pictures 2018


A Year in Pictures

2018






Studying Sensitivity



Visiting Grandbabies






































A Momma & her babies

Down & Dirty

Weddings
Family
Marcus Antonius
Cleopatra

Seahawks Pre-season

Groovin

Can't Smash Our Groove
Meeting new friends
Hangin' with old friends
Happy Birthday to me!
Newest Grand




Family

Nayno & her boys
Family

A Portrait

Cover Art

Cancun 4 Christmas



It's been REAL!



Sunday, December 30, 2018

Where Ya Headed?

GOALS! 
Do you have them? 


In my world, 2018 was somewhat of a roller coaster. If you're one of my faithful readers (thanks for waiting for me!), you know this is not a new state of being for me. One big difference this year has been that I have spent a lot more time deliberately seeking the positive in every person, and every situation. I was determined to find at least one favorable thing, no matter what. There have been times when that was quite a daunting task, but I accomplished it, and I plan to continue the pattern!! This task was not deemed a "New Year's Resolution" (because I don't buy into that concept) but it was a goal I had set for my life in general. 

Years ago, I received a gift from my Dad. A book called, "The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren. Sadly, I never read it. Looking back, I believe I let it collect dust along with many other things I mentally blocked after dad died. Interestingly enough, however, throughout the years whenever I have renewed my personal goals, I have silently recited the title. (Incidentally, one of my current goals is to read more books. I shall add this one to the top of the list!) 
You have to admit, the title is catchy. And provocative. The subtitle, "What On Earth Am I Here For?" follows suit. Survey 100 random people with the question: 'What do you think your purpose on this earth is?' and see how many people articulate a quick answer. I'll venture a guess of possibly around 10-15%, and this number is high. What a difficult question! Especially if you're on the spot. 
Given some time to ponder it...can we answer? 

If we are unable to answer this question, where are we truly headed? What is at our "finish line"? Personally, I like to make myself a sort of map. I set my long-term goals first. Then I make short-term goals to help me attain the long term goals, keeping in mind that I may need to change some of these short-term goals along the way. Being flexible with my plans is crucial to my peace of mind. I tend to be somewhat of a control-freak if I'm not careful. Incorporating the plan of deliberately seeking good in everything has significantly impacted my outlook on life.

Admittedly, I have had some difficulty in determining my overall purpose. In fact, it's still a work in progress. I've had the tendency to find my identity in people. Like so many mothers out there: for 25 of the last 27.5 years, my purpose was my child. That "child" is now a married adult with three children of his own. The specifics of that transition is for a completely different conversation, but at some point, I had to realize that I have my own purpose, separate from my child. I was married for 17 years. During that time, my purpose was also intertwined with my husband. I realize that to an extent, married people's purposes are supposed to mesh with each other (clearly I am a divorced, non-expert) but even then, as an individual I needed to find my own identity and direction, separate from my spouse. I am at the stage in life now where I am instrumental in tending to the needs of my own parent (mom). I contemplated tying my purpose to helping her. The moral of this (paragraph) story is that each individual MUST find their own purpose. One that is not connected to another human. Otherwise, what happens when that human is no longer present? Death happens. Divorce happens. People move away. From personal experience, I can tell you that the transition is brutal. 
YOU ARE SPECIAL!!!!!!
YES! You are special. Psalm 139:14 says, "...I am fearfully and wonderfully made..." God MADE all of us extraordinary! Of course we deserve to have individual identities, regardless of where we've been or what we've done. I think that is the first thing we all need to realize before we begin our search for our purpose. There have definitely been periods in my life when I have considered myself less than deserving. That is simply untrue, and again, a topic for a completely different conversation.

My prayer for all who are reading this is that you will know in your heart how special you are because God created you that way! I pray that if you don't seem to have a direction in life now, that you are able to spend some time in introspection to discover it. I pray that you have been blessed by your visit here today, and that you'll come back soon! 

THANK YOU